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You Don’t Have to Open The Door Just Because They Knock…

Seven Day Mental Diet
Guiding Principle 3:
Just Because Negative Thoughts Knock You Don’t Have To Open The Door

 The rules of the Seven Day Mental Diet are very simple. “For seven days you must not allow yourself to dwell for a single moment on any kind of negative thought. You must watch yourself for a whole week as a cat watches a mouse. You must not under any pretense or for any reason, allow your mind to dwell on any thought that is not positive, optimistic, constructive, or kind.”

You’re going to have negative thoughts—no doubt about it—but you must immediately let them go. If you allow yourself to think the negative thought for more than a minute or two, you must stop the Seven Day Mental Diet and start it over again from the beginning. The trick is to learn to let those negative thoughts enter your head and then immediately leave.

How do you know what a negative thought is? A negative thought is any thought of failure, disappointment, trouble, criticism, resentment, jealousy or judgment. So are thoughts of anxiety, depression or fear. When you criticize yourself or you throw a pity party…those are directed by negative thoughts. Worrying about getting sick or being in an accident is also negative thinking.  Basically any thought that isn’t constructive, is a negative thought.  You will know in your heart when you have one, and when you do, you must reject it immediately. You can’t pick and choose what you will allow or not. You can’t decide that some negative thoughts don’t count or don’t matter. You can’t decide, for example, that griping about the weather is okay but complaining about your job isn’t.  There is no adjustable scale here.  Just like a sin is a sin, a negative thought is a negative thought.  The rule is that you can’t dwell on a negative thought—ANY negative thought.

We are constantly bombarded with negative thoughts and images. Television, radio and social media are always talking about disasters, politics, crime and sad stories. Because of this, I recommend that you limit your exposure to negative news during the Seven Day Mental Diet. My mom used to have FOX News on her TV 24/7.  No wonder she spent much of her last years with a negative attitude. Turn off the television and don’t read the daily paper. Don’t worry about being left out of the loop. If something is really important, someone will let you know.

Yesterday I mentioned being around negative people. If you are chatting with someone who is complaining and gossiping, don’t bother to argue or take a stand. Instead, just tune them out and change the subject.

What if you know that you are going to be faced with a challenging situation? If you haven’t started the Seven Day Mental Diet yet, you may want to wait until that situation has passed. Or, you can remember that it is never the event or situation that is the problem. It’s your perception and your judgment of it that determines whether it is good, bad or indifferent.  While you may not be able to control the situation, you can definitely control your THOUGHTS about what’s happening.

The more you practice the Seven Day Mental Diet, the easier it will become for you to monitor your thoughts and identify whether they are positive or negative. You will be able to quickly decide which thoughts to keep and which thoughts to kick to the curb immediately.  If you can keep it up for a full seven days, you’ll find that at the end of the seventh day, you’ll forget that you’re on a diet and just keep on with your new way of thinking. From that point forward, hopefully you’ll find that your outlook and your life are changed forever.  That’s our goal!

 

 

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